October is National Anti-Bullying Month so we thought we’d share some really important questions each and every parent should consider. Whether your child seems to be friends with everyone in the community or has fewer friends, bullying can happen to kids of any social standing.
5 Questions Every Parent Should Ask About Teen Bullying
The sad truth is that bullies exist, and somewhere each one of them has at least one parent or adult who allowed this sort of behavior. Every parent of a teen needs to ask him- or herself these questions:
- Where does my child stand in this stratified teen culture?
- What have I taught my child, and what am I teaching him or her about how to treat other people?
- What do my actions and attitudes indicate about the importance I personally place on my child’s popularity?
- If my child is popular, how much pleasure and satisfaction do I show my teen about that popularity?
- If my child is not popular, how much distress and unhappiness do I feel and display to my child?
As parents, we need to be aware of the influence our own thoughts, desires, wishes, and unfulfilled expectations have on our children. Parents also need to be aware of the character of the relationships all our children have with each other. We need to be aware of how those relationships can change, especially around age eleven or right before middle school. Children can be brutal to each other; we know—we’ve been there.
- Woe to those of us who turn aside and allow our own children to terrorize others.
- Woe to those of us who turn aside and allow our children to be terrorized, to be bullied, manipulated, and tormented.
Our children may be smart, clever, strong, athletic—but they are all needy. And those positive characteristics can have both a light and a dark side. You need to be aware of which side is shining out of, and shining on, your sons and daughters. It is important for both boys and girls to know the signs of such destructive adolescent behavior, so they can avoid it—in themselves and in others.
Fortunately, most people grow up. Even bullies usually mature, but they must look back in horror at the hurt they caused during this time in their lives. Help your son or your daughter to live their teenage years in such a way they’ll have many good and happy memories of how they came to be who they are. Everyone looks back at adolescence and has regrets; help your teen to gather up as few as possible.
Talk with your teenager … Be there for your tween. Parents are often encouraged to talk with their kids, but they don t always feel equipped to deal with these difficult topics off the cuff, right? At the turn of a page, 40 Answers to Teen s Top Questions is packed with the most common teen questions, solutions, biblical advice, plus parenting tips that are laid out clearly in an easy-to-read way that your teen can read on their own or with you!
- 40 real & relevant topics to teens & preteens
- Each question opens with real comments from an adolescent to other adolescents
- Straightforward answers from an expert addressed to teens with honesty and humor
- Each topic includes practical exercises to “Talk It Out,” “Act It Out,” and Think It Out”
- “For Parents” section on each topic addresses concerns and gives ideas and options to create open communication
- and more!
…I love that it is written from a christian perspective and is right in line with my beliefs and views… What really makes this book great is the fact that the main sections are written by a high-schooler and then the parent sections for discussion and guidance are written by his father. I think the way it is written is also great in helping them realize that others such as friends or acquaintances may think they know what they are talking about but are not always accurate. This book gives them concrete answers…”–JustinTime, Review from Hendrickson-Rose
You already know not to lecture your teen, but it can be hard to reason with them when emotions run high, so where do you turn? With over decades of experience counseling teens and parents (as well as being a parent of a teen), Dr. Gregory Jantz has the top 40 practical and compassionate answers you’re looking for. From peer pressure and bullies to zits and dating, parents will discover practical ways to have open and honest conversations with their teens while equipping them to navigate toward early adulthood.
40 Answers to Teens’ Top Questions is perfect for counseling, parents groups, youth ministry leaders, church giveaways, and more!
This book has it all covered… Sometimes its hard to pin point exactly what is bothering a teenager without seaming like your prying into their “business”; this helped me connect on a more mature and pliable way with my sons. I love this book and will pass it on to other families!–Goodlilgingerjoy1, Review from Hendrickson-Rose
Relationship-Building & Conflict Resolution Guide for Teens and Parents
Dr. Gregory Jantz and his son Gregg Jr. will help you and your teen learn to speak the same language, respect each other s thoughts and feelings, and effectively address 40 critical topics. Get the confidence you need to answer your teen s tough questions and keep communication open. Parents and other adults will be amazed at the mutual respect and trust you ve built between you and your teen.
You know your teen is going to be getting these answers about puberty, how to grow up, and more, from their friends, the internet, and other adults, but they want and need to hear these answers from you! This guide will help you:
- Communicate clearly & effectively listen to your teen to build trust, respect, and a lasting bond
- Easily bring up hot teen topics so your teen feels free to openly share
- Gain the confidence to equip your teen with everything they need to make godly choices every day
- and so much more!
240 pgs, paperback, 5.5 x 8.5 inches.
This is such a great book for teenagers and parents alike! It gives relevant problems with amazing tips for teenagers and parents! Each chapter talks about specific problems a teen may have and how and why they may feel that way. Talks about ways to resolve these problems and gives it from both the teenager and parent perspective that can be really helpful for teenagers! There are also parenting tips to help parents overcome these obstacles! I highly recommend this book to any parent who has a teenager…–Katriza, Review from Hendrickson-Rose